Moving Forward

Losing the roots and moving forward is just the same as a crow wanting to be a peacock. The balance between our feet firmly placed within our base and our heads flying without any boundaries should always be of importance to us


Those things which you listen to thousands of videos, read in numerous snippets, hear from your well-wishers... right! Those things you won’t be reading today in this article. Rather I would be writing about the harsh reality which even if we understand and experience it, we successfully push it to the dusty corners of our mind. Why? Because we know if we dive deep then we would not find an exit let alone tackle with it efficiently.

So...  what am I going to talk about anyway? WE have moved out of our homes to pursue something, to be self-sufficient, self-dependent and other fancy adjectives. We cannot even deny the fact that our parents were the first ones who told us to move out of our houses to “do something” with our lives. They fund our fashion sense, our food habits, our varied tantrums, our “extracurricular activities”, in fact our very own damn existence! How and why do they act in such selfless ways? We think ourselves at higher level from them in thinking, perspectives and in many other ways. Still, it takes us forever to recover when our lovers leaves us, our close friends leaves us, our constants leaves us, our opportunities leaves us, our dreams passes by, our hopes get broken, our minds and bodies hurts like slow poison tarnishing everything which comes in its path.



But what does it have to do with our parents’ right? The answer is everything. We can’t let go of these petty things, yes petty things, because can you put yourself into your parents position and imagine the pain that they are going through. You would argue me by telling “but they have each other” “but they have their own friends and life” “but their lives are more busy and complex”. Just hold that thought right there! Yes, tell it “statue!!” and hold it. Now think on this... if their lives were perfect and they were happy then you wouldn’t even have born. Yes, I agree that having a child was a compulsion in those days; still, they could have opted for the easier way that is to not take the effort to make you the good human you are right now. They cut you from their lives for your own betterment. You, a very important member who is an intangible part of them, the apple of their eyes, the very reason they save money for, the very reason they take breathes happily. Just *khach* and the half of the strings between you and them are cut in a moment. Those strings which formed and grew strong from the moment you were born to the moment you were ready to walk your own path in this cruel world. Their whole world actually falls apart and your presence gets replaced with the silence which bleeds their ears out. And all those gatherings in their or watching tv are just the ways to numb their pain. Because, frankly speaking, even if they got familiar with the internet world as we are, they would still chose this painful silence over the mind numbing noise.

When were hanging out, exploring the world, friending and unfriending strangers, remember there are people in your home who are turning the pages of your growth in their minds, flipping through those silly photographs which you wouldn’t dare to show anyone. Thats the beauty of them and the ugliness of us. We are generations apart, debate on every little thing because “we know better” “we’re dreaming a good world”, just remember that it’s because of their mistakes and actions irrespective of right and wrong, we’re able to think and act differently. We can’t put up with our parents on most of the things but we should also remember that putting our negative emotions into the already messed up relation would only lead to more chaos. Just the way we apply something soothing to ease the pain of our wounds, we should bandage our bonds with empathy and unconditional care towards them.

Also just as encroachment on the walls of monuments makes them lose their beauty, in similar way every relationship work. We as children should respect our parents's willingness to do everything. At the same time, we shouldn't hesitate to push them pack at the right time for the right reason. Thank you. Much love.
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